Preventing Cliques
Create opportunities for kids to interact with those they might
not otherwise
Get large group together for extended periods of time
Group service projects
Interactive activities that split up cliques
Stretching comfort zones
Demonstrating and developing “real” faith
Random acts of kindness
Individual sharing
Service projects that put faith into action
Lack of Respect
Take initiative to make each youth feel important
Raise behavior expectations; youth will often live
up to them
Involve adults in youth sessions, by having them
strategically placed throughout
the room or participate as small group members
Contact parents
Family Issues
Develop a plan of action in cooperation with the
congregational pastor
Meet one-on-one with affected youth
Select a sensitive mentor for the youth
Safe Atmosphere for Sharing
Personal testimony and
confession
Meeting more frequently
Participation/actual discipleship
Personal spiritual
growth
True Community/Accountability
Small groups
Specialized Bible studies
Mentors
Intentional one-to-one time with youth
Go to activities youth are involved in outside of
church
Take individual youth to a public place for ice
cream or coffee
Engagement
Small groups
Fun activities
Awareness of events/activities
Helping kids have a sense of belonging
Seating arrangement
Candy/rewards
Connecting (adult to youth)
Send snail mail note
Call in the middle of the week
Send packages/treats to school
Outside Influences
Discuss the influences openly and honestly
Become familiar with youth culture so you can
address it with youth
Different Backgrounds
Sharing stories
Being open
Agree to disagree and move on together
Parental Involvement
Plan occasional activities that include parents
Involve parents in providing snacks, planning and
staffing special events
Communicate with parents so they know the youth
activities schedule
Immaturity (social deficit, fringe kids,
rebelliousness)
Take aside individuals and address the problem
Recognize and acknowledge kids’ strengths
Involve them with helping and
leading
Play along during appropriate times